- 20 May 2021
Motivational speaker, Sandeep Maheshwari once raised the question, “We don't laugh at the same joke again. Then why do we cry on the same problem again and again?” Instead of going to a motivational speaker and spend money for such answers, lets brush up our dirt of ignorance on the Book that is there in every home of India and search for answers.
In the adhyay 3, Karma Yoga, Srimadbhagwat Gita says
कर्मण्येवाधिकारस्ते मा फलेषु कदाचन l
मा कर्मफलहेतुर्भूर्मा ते सङ्गोऽस्त्वकर्मणि ll
This brilliant verse refers to karma as the seed and result as the fruit (phala). What is happiness and pain? These are the phala for the karma you performed. But why the word phala is used? Simply because phala is an item meant for consumption.
How does it apply to your life? Your life is a giant dish having only 2 items in it, sukha (happiness) and dukha (misery). Sukha is sweet and dukha is bitter. In the restaurant, you are free to eat the sweet part and leave the bitter one. But life isn't a restaurant. You have no choice, besides consuming both.
“Now, recall a real-life situation in the childhood where you had to consume all the items in the plate in order to avoid getting beaten by your martinet mother. You ate the sweeter part very fast as you enjoyed it and the happiness too vanished very fast. But when it came to the bitter food item, you ate slowly. With teary eyes. You spent 95% of the time eating the bitter part.”
The rule was to eat both parts, sweet and bitter.
You didn't complain that you were forced to eat the sweet part even though it was forced. But you did complain that the mother was forcing you to eat the bitter part.
To translate this into your real life, when you eat the sweeter part (happy moments in your life), you just enjoy and the happiness vanishes fast as you tend to enjoy greedily.
When you eat the bitter part, you try to avoid it and suffer as slowly as possible, which takes more time to consume it, making the sad moments exist lot longer in your life than they should. And add extra suffering to it where you also complain to have been forced to suffer.
This is why the wise Srimadbhagwat Gita says: सुखदुःखे समे कृत्वा लाभालाभौ जयाजयौ। ततो युद्धाय युज्यस्व। In your life, you must treat happiness and pain, victory and loss equally and this is how you should fight the battle of your life.
In other words, just like you happily accept the pleasure, you must happily accept the pain. Both are phala. If you don't consume the phala in the form of pain happily by accepting it, you are only making the situation worse. Because if you don’t, life knows how to press your nose and forcibly stuff it in your mouth.
Such a brilliant message, isn't? But we don't want to use this free knowledge, unless a motivational speaker charges you lakhs to tell you the same thing, without giving any credit to Srimadbhagwat Gita.
Sant Tukaram rightly says
ठेविले अनंते तैसेचि रहावे l चित्ती असो द्यावे समाधान ll २ ll
We should live with the whatever God has provided us with the sense of satisfaction.
Shishir R Katote is a student coach, who has come up with his unique course named as Karmik Reprogramming. This course is based on the ancient vedic science which takes the understanding of common concepts like confidence, stress, memory, hard work to a whole new level - making the implementation very easy.